Showing posts with label #audacity. Show all posts
Showing posts with label #audacity. Show all posts

Saturday, December 3, 2016

I've been reading this book Abundance: The Future Is Better Than You Think by Peter Diamandis and it's giving me so much hope for our future.  One of the best things I've found on there is a reference to this Ted talk - The Best Stats You've Ever Seen.  So the book is incredibly detailed on all the innovation that has taken place and is taking place that has made our lives better, easier, more productive, healthier...etc.  It talks about how helping other people move out of poverty and into a prosperous and educated life, helps all of us.  It talks about over population and that probably the most important solution to this and the lack of education (which has a direct correlation with big families and poverty) is the education of women.  Diamandis quotes John Oldfield, who was managing director of WASH Advocacy Initiative, who says that the best thing for the problem of over population is through "increasing child survival, educating girls, and making knowledge and availability of birth control ubiquitous." (p. 42)  I was so struck when I read this.  I am in complete awe over and over again at the role women play in this world.  We are so good at what we do.  We know how to take care of others, grow our children, manage our households, multitask at our jobs, lead in our respective roles in our own unique way.  I'm not trying to take away anything from the talents of men, but I do want to focus on the talents of women, because I think we overlook our talents in so many ways.  One of the stupidest ways we do this, is women on women.  I went to a conference where the keynote speaker Walter Bond made a funny reference to a scenario where we women look at another woman and say to ourselves or to those around us "who does she think she is?".  It was funny, but oh so sad.  Sad because it's true.  We women are so afraid of another woman if we think she shines brighter, is prettier, is more successful...on and on ad nauseam, while men don't do this shit!  Ugh.  It makes me so disgusted.  Men don't go around dissing other guys because of how they look or what they say or how they feel they measure up to them.  Yes, granted guys like a good gossip story, but its entertainment to them, not fuel for bitterness, insecurity or resentment.  I just don't understand why it so ingrained in us women.  I think that we can have our gossip sessions but still support and root for other women.  We should try to take things as they are and understand that that other woman has her own problems, pains, anxieties...but more than that, she has her own strengths, beauty, talents, wisdom, experiences....etc.

I challenge all of us today that if we think negative thoughts or want to put another woman down today that we stop and realize that she's a woman just like us and maybe love her a little, care for her a little,  respect her a little...be grateful for her existence in this world.  Without her we would lose what unique perspective she has to offer and we might all be worse off without it.




Wednesday, September 17, 2014

How Not To Be A Lady

My beautiful Lolita sent me this link today: A Cup of Jo and I laughed and smiled and almost cried at some of these quotes!  Oh how beautiful we women are when we choose to be brave and authentic.  It is a breath of fresh air to be balls out and completely the woman you are meant to be!  My favorite quote from this article was this one:
Whatever you choose, however many roads you travel, I hope that you choose not to be a lady. I hope you will find some way to break the rules and make a little trouble out there. And I also hope that you will choose to make some of that trouble on behalf of women.
Nora Ephron

I have a surge of joy in my heart and my chest when I read it and reread it.  A bubble of joy just immediately blows up inside of me and then bursts throughout all my insides and through my limbs!!!  Why??!!!   Because this is how I want to live my life...this is how I want all the women I love to live their lives!  To not be afraid of what others might think or say or smirk at...and just do that which makes you shine and rock on.  Why should we stand there and think that we are not good enough, beautiful enough, smart enough, special enough?  Who are these "meters" that we are comparing ourselves to, that we think we are below them?  Maybe celebrities, people who have money, younger women, more "accomplished" (again, what is the meter?), or any other person that we believe are in some way above us?  Oh how wrong must we be.  I look around at those I call my friends, my family, my coworkers, people on the street and I see women who are unique and special and wondrous and so then what I try to do is reflect that back on me and tell myself, that if I can see that in others...then why would I be so unique as to not have those same beautiful qualities?  The answer is that as different as I am to others, I am just the same and I, too, am special and wondrous.  I just love paradoxes!!  

A lady is proper, perfect, formal, polite, and I would say probably very uninteresting due to her lack of depth in her presentation.  This does not mean that the lady is uninteresting, it is to say the title and what it implies is.  So to not be a lady is to be deep, not afraid to be criticized, not afraid to stand out, interesting, speaks her mind, but I would also want to add that due to being deep, not being a lady means to empathize with imperfection, have compassion for others and be non judgmental.  This is what all those sparkly pieces of joy that burst inside of me look like.  Imperfect, shiny, interesting, tiny pieces of love flitter about my insides like confetti.  This is why I want to live my life like that. "I hope you choose not to be a lady."